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Yes, it really is unfathomable that women might not like having sleazy shit yelled at them by total strangers in public.

  • Anthony

    not all men are like this

    • Nibelung

      Let's make an analogy. You are driving to your work. Are you going to remember the 250 drivers that drive like a real person, or the half dozen ones that drive like a maniac?

      Just because "not all men are like this", this should be in your best interest to correct the ones who ARE because they affect how the world view the ones who AREN'T.

      • chemiclord

        No… it really ISN’T our job to “correct” the jerkwads. And their actions should have absolutely NO bearing on the “rest of us.” When you judge an entire group based on the extremes, your perception is ALWAYS going to be wrong.

        Now, with that said, I don’t see how this comic is painting all men in a bad light. It’s reflecting the reality of what a woman has to deal with… because yes, it does happen, and it shouldn’t.

    • http://www.happyjar.com/ Fonder

      Please direct me as to where the comic implies that they are?

    • mobile

      Yeah, but it's the 98% of us that are bad apples the make the rest of us look bad.

  • RodeoTurtle

    I think your comic is the best webcomic I've seen in a while. It sees into my soul and then makes comics about it.

  • Nikitta Tigerlily

    Even bad apples can be used to make good Compote!

  • Tom

    Devil's advocate: if it was women complimenting the guy, odds are he wouldn't mind.

    The implied argument being that "if you're complimented by someone you could be attracted to, why would you mind?". Of course, it's always the best choice not being a creep.

    • overand

      The difference being that men *aren't* constantly subjected to street harrassment like this, so that comparison doens't work, as a hypothetical man being catcalled by hypothetical women doesn't live in the same world the actual-woman does, where 1 in 5 (or more) women are raped, where catcalling is constant, and they have to walk a very fine tightrope between "prudish" and "asking for it."

      So, no, just flipping the genders doesn't actually negate this.

    • RandomBarb

      Fun times being able to reply.

      I'm a pretty fit guy, I've been to places and festivals where if I have my shirt off I've been essentially cat-called constantly. It's fucking horribly unpleasant. I'm really uncomfortable the whole time, it's generally fucking rude and creepy. Guys comment on it too.

      You smile and awkwardly laugh and try to joke about it while shuffling away.

      "Well you should just wear a shirt then!" – Yeah. I do. That's my solution. That's the only solution. It is not pleasant. ( It's not a big deal, I move on with my life the rest of the time but I'm clearly a bit frustrated with how misunderstood this is, especially when any male-perspective is dismissed because "humble-brag".)

      • Rain

        Also: I don't see comments like "I wanna fuck your mouth" or "Want some dick?" as compliments. Because, you know, they aren't.

        It's disgusting.

    • tay

      >implying all men are attracted to women.

  • RehReh

    This made me laugh so hard lol.

  • traciitaylor

    This made my day.

  • Dakoda

    This is much bigger than ”a few bad apples.

    One in 12 male students surveyed had committed acts that met the legal definition of rape.

    16 percent of male students who had committed rape took part in episodes with more than one attackers.

    33 percent of males surveyed said that they would commit rape if they could escape detection.

    25 percent of men surveyed believed that rape was acceptable if the woman asks the man out, the man pays for the date or the woman goes back to the man's room after the date.

    • raggle fraggle

      While it doesn't make the rest of those things right at all, I do want point out that the first point rhere is kind of ambiguous. "Things that meet the legal definition of rape" is a bit of a broad net to cast. Sleep with a 16 year old who used a fake ID to get into a club and told you she was 22? Rape. Have a few drinks with your girlfriend and go back to your house for a night of passionate lovemaking? Technically rape for both of you were both drunk so you couldn't really give consent.

      Even that second one could be a little ambiguous. Get a bunch of people together specially to have a few drinks and take part in an orgy? Rape all around.

      • Robin

        The 'facts' presented on this page are totally disingenuous. First off, the page making the claim is using multiple sources and cherry-picking statistics. In all the studies the number of people surveyed is tiny, usually less than 50. They are all self-selected (they want to take part, usually because they have strong feelings about the subject). Note that in the 'facts' listed one group of men surveyed are rapists (16 percent of male students who had committed rape…) Are these the same males who said that they would commit another rape if they thought they could get away with it? Surveying men already convicted of sex offences is a typical ruse used to inflate the figures and come up with startling statistics. When the 'facts' are reported they are just referred to as 'males surveyed'.

        In many of the studies rape is bundled in with 'unwanted sexual contact' which includes catcalling but also times when a woman has had sex with her partner when they didn't really feel like it but did so any way to please them. Some studies even asked the participants if they ever felt that if they all out refused to have sex at all their partners would leave them. Anyone who answered yes was another tick in the 'pressured into having sex' box. When the 'facts' end up on, what are typically recruiting posters for women's group, everything is usually merged under the label rape.

        Finally, many of these studies do not distinguish between acting experiencing something and believing something to be the case. So a group of college girls, all the studies are carried out in colleges, will be asked if they know someone, or have been close to someone, who has been a victim of rape. If there has been a rape on campus, or there are rumours of one, all the girls that have heard about it will answer yes. So if 22 women are surveyed and 11 reply that they have been close to someone who was raped, the statistic is reported as 50 percent of women surveyed know someone who is a victim of rape.

  • http://www.eldshow.se Momo Jord

    So painful. So true.

  • Peter

    I gotta say wow with all the comments the character received, she never responded to any of them. She could of made the best of it ,but she chose to go home, be depressed, and all alone….. Must not be an adventurous woman.

    • HappyMaps

      Uh… How can one be adventurous with someone harassing them. That stuff is scary. Not a single one of those panels shows a situation where any person, male or female, could respond without potentially exacerbating the situation. This isn't a representation of all men, rather examples of why cat calling isn't ok. And the panels show the male putting himself in the position of the female to see what she sees.

  • Jack

    This is f***ing bullsh*t. Woman catcalling man =/= man catcalling man. The latter makes the man uncomfortable BECAUSE HE's NOT A GAY. Now if it were a woman saying those things in the comic (like it should have been to make sense at all), I would indeed have felt complimented. Dumbass.

    • http://carlyndra.tumblr.com/ Carlyndra

      Why do you assume he is not gay?

    • Bravo

      Why would it even matter if he’s gay? These are COMPLETE STRANGERS. It’s scary and creepy.

    • A gay

      Your argument is flawed, but I can live with that that’s your problem… But saying “he’s not A gay” I have to hear moronic things like that all the time… Please stop.

  • Yes

    Let’s just a take a moment to appreciate the fact that the artist seems to be approving all kinds of comments and letting us debate in his comment section?

    Ok. Carry on.